One day the Buddha visited a village. As he was greeted by the people, an angry and rude speaking young man began insulting him…
“You have no right teaching others” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake.”
The Buddha remained calm, and did not take the insults personally. Instead he engaged the young man with an insightful question, “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?”
The man was surprised by the question, nevertheless answered, “It would belong to me because I bought the gift.”
The Buddha smiled and said, “That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, than the anger falls back on you. You are the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.”
The man looked irritated and confused.
The Buddha explained the teaching in this way,
“If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy.
But when you love others,” smiling, “everyone is happy.”
May each of us remain kind and calm when faced with anger.